Life (and Pain)

Robert Kiyosaki's "Rich Dad, Poor Dad" really touched my heart. (I thought) The book was supposed to teach me only about Business and Investing.. just about making money work for me.. But it did not only talked about THAT. It also introduced me to LIFE.. 

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I've been living and breathing for 21 years (originally posted this on Sept 2007) already and still, I haven't got a clue of what Life is trying to tell me.. until Kiyosaki (or his book for that matter) made Life known to me. He said, Life is the best teacher of all, but it does not talk. It just sort of pushes you around. Each push means, there's something Life wants you to learn. (Kiyosaki, 1998)

"If you learn Life's lessons, you will do well. If not, life will just continue to push you around." (Kiyosaki, 1998)

Let me introduce to you one of Life's mates, Pain. I believe Pain is just one of the few "mates" Life sends to you (to push you around), for you to get the message..the lesson.. You will continue to be with Pain until you learn to stop pushing back, until you stop blaming others, until you learn to let go. (Hey! Pain doesn't want to be with you for a long time too..Let it go!) Like Morrie (Mitch Albom, Tuesdays With Morrie) has said, for you to be able to move on and be happy, you have to embrace the message Pain is trying to tell you, then let go.

"Life pushes all of us around. Some give up. Others fight. A few learn a lesson and move on. They welcome Life pushing them around. To these few people, it means they need and want to learn something. They learn and move on. Most quit, and a few fight." (Kiyosaki, 1998)

When you are hurting and in pain, STOP blaming other people, thinking they are the cause.. the problem.. If you keep thinking that they are the cause, then you'll have to change them, or hurt them (or hurt other people), or get revenge. You have to realize it's not them. It's Life trying to tell you something. Learn and grow wiser.

"Most people want everyone to change but themselves... It's easier to change yourself than everyone else." (Kiyosaki, 1998)

Don't blame anyone for your pain. Learn to accept, forgive and let go. Those people who caused us pain, they are probably part of Life's team of pushers (hehe!), so Life could teach us something. So, instead of getting mad at them, we should thank them for making us grow stronger and wiser. What do you think? 

"True learning takes energy, passion, a burning desire. Anger is a big part of the formula, for passion is anger and love combined." (Kiyosaki, 1998)

It's okay to let it all out. You might wanna scream and shout and cry. But don't forget the learning part. It's not okay to scream and shout and cry everyday.

"The word 'emotion' stands for energy in motion. Be truthful about your emotions, and use your mind and emotions in your favor, not against you" (Kiyosaki, 1998)

You may want to talk to another person (or to the one that caused you pain.. just to let that person know how you feel.) You don't have to be hiding. Don't be ashamed to say you were hurt. You'll never know, talking about it might help you understand.

(NOTE: I originally posted this on Sep 15, '07 6:52 PM on my Multiply.com blog)

Work Cited: 

Kiyosaki, R.T. and Lechter, S.L. (1998). Rich Dad, Poor Dad: What the Rich Teach Their Kids About Money--That the Poor and Middle Class Do Not!. Paradise Valley, Ariz. : Tech Press.